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Senior Member
Username: jacko

Post Number: 3334
Registered: 10-2002
Posted on Tuesday, March 12, 2013 - 6:02 am:   Edit Post

My eldest brother Chris passed away on Sunday 3rd March. He had survived Hodgkins Lymphoma when he was about 20 but has had several recurrences since.
He lived in Aukland, New Zealand so I didn't see much of him but we always kept in touch.I last saw him last October when I returned from my USA trip as he was in the UK visiting my folks but he had suffered a relapse so was flying straight back to NZ for tests. Sadly they diagnosed full blown lung cancer and were only able to administer chemo and radio treatment to slow up his disease. I was planning to visit him at Easter for a couple of weeks but was told last sunday that he had gone very suddenly.
Chris was my first ever musical hero. He was a fantastic guitarist and played around the north east folk circuit alongside superstars like Lindisfarne although he never sought the limelight. Before he left home to study law, he took the trouble to teach me the basic guitar chords and I even learnt some ragtime finger picking from him. He never complained when I gave up the guitar to play bass and would always ask to see my Alembics whenever he visited.
He also helped me develop a very wide interest in music. From a very early age, each birthday or christmas would herald the arrival of some obscure LP that I often thought was rubbish (I was probably more interested in deep purple back then) but would listen to nonetheless. Without Chris I wouldn't be a Doobies fan or have an interest in Robert Palmer, James Taylor or Joan Armatrading. I'd probably never even have heard of Can let alone own some of their work. I think it's safe to say that without my brother's influence I'd probably never have taken up music.

His passing has left a huge gap in our lives that I doubt I'll ever fill.

Senior Member
Username: dadabass2001

Post Number: 1720
Registered: 6-2002
Posted on Tuesday, March 12, 2013 - 6:55 am:   Edit Post

My condolences on your loss, Graeme. Prayers of surcease headed your way.
Senior Member
Username: sonicus

Post Number: 2809
Registered: 5-2009
Posted on Tuesday, March 12, 2013 - 7:02 am:   Edit Post

I send my sincere condolences and positive kind thoughts to you and your family in this time of loss .

Username: artswork99

Post Number: 1834
Registered: 7-2007
Posted on Tuesday, March 12, 2013 - 7:10 am:   Edit Post


So sorry to hear of Chris's passing. May the love that surrounds help to ease this pain. I will hold you and your family close in this difficult time.

Sincere condolences,
Intermediate Member
Username: tncaveman

Post Number: 169
Registered: 2-2011
Posted on Tuesday, March 12, 2013 - 7:30 am:   Edit Post

My brother turned me onto Yes, Jethro Tull, etc. Since my parents passing, he's my goto. Prayers to you.

Senior Member
Username: lbpesq

Post Number: 5367
Registered: 7-2004
Posted on Tuesday, March 12, 2013 - 7:52 am:   Edit Post

One of my my older twin brothers turned me on to the Grateful Dead, (he also "turned me on"- two driving forces in my life). The other passed away from brain cancer 5 1/2 years ago. My heart goes out to you Graeme. The older we get, the more mortality stares us right in the face. We should always strive to make the best of the time we have.

May the Four Winds Blow You Safely Home.

Bill, tgo
Senior Member
Username: 811952

Post Number: 2291
Registered: 10-2003
Posted on Tuesday, March 12, 2013 - 8:19 am:   Edit Post

My condolences, Graeme. Sounds like a cool guy, and those are the ones who always seem to leave too soon.

Advanced Member
Username: jcdlc72

Post Number: 229
Registered: 11-2009
Posted on Tuesday, March 12, 2013 - 8:24 am:   Edit Post

My condolences from this side of the Caribbean sea...
Advanced Member
Username: oddmetersam

Post Number: 260
Registered: 7-2008
Posted on Tuesday, March 12, 2013 - 8:58 am:   Edit Post

So sorry to hear this, Graeme. We are all family. I'll be thinking of you. Take care.
Senior Member
Username: senmen

Post Number: 1084
Registered: 7-2003
Posted on Tuesday, March 12, 2013 - 9:09 am:   Edit Post

please accept my condolences.
I am very sorry to hear that.....
Oliver (Spyderman)
Advanced Member
Username: karl

Post Number: 212
Registered: 7-2002
Posted on Tuesday, March 12, 2013 - 9:43 am:   Edit Post

Sorry to hear this, Graeme. Hope you're holding up OK.

Intermediate Member
Username: that_sustain

Post Number: 118
Registered: 8-2012
Posted on Tuesday, March 12, 2013 - 9:51 am:   Edit Post

Very sorry for your loss. Take care.
Senior Member
Username: pauldo

Post Number: 941
Registered: 6-2006
Posted on Tuesday, March 12, 2013 - 4:54 pm:   Edit Post

I'll double up on the positive healing thoughts for you.
We all need them sometime and we can all give them back.

I sincerely hope for the hollow emptiness of grief to soon be flooded with nothing but fond memories of Chris.

Senior Member
Username: slawie

Post Number: 488
Registered: 8-2002
Posted on Tuesday, March 12, 2013 - 6:08 pm:   Edit Post

Cry not for me as I leave this world you know.
I go to a far far better place.
There is no hunger, no fear, no pain and no tears.
Wrap your arms around those I leave behind.
Be warmed by my memory and comforted by my eternal love.
Senior Member
Username: jet_powers

Post Number: 548
Registered: 2-2003
Posted on Tuesday, March 12, 2013 - 6:22 pm:   Edit Post


Condolences to you and your loved ones.

Senior Member
Username: lidon2001

Post Number: 505
Registered: 4-2005
Posted on Tuesday, March 12, 2013 - 6:47 pm:   Edit Post

Condolences with kind regards,

Intermediate Member
Username: flpete1uw

Post Number: 158
Registered: 11-2011
Posted on Tuesday, March 12, 2013 - 6:49 pm:   Edit Post

Sorry for your loss Graeme,
I to share a heavy heart with the loss of my Father 2/20/13. When he would catch me in tears I would say to him I'm not tearing so much for you for soon you'll be fine. I cry for myself for the temporary loss of not having him around here anymore. We spoke every day. He suffered greatly and now is at Peace.
May we both find Peace in our hearts,
Intermediate Member
Username: smokinbear

Post Number: 184
Registered: 11-2008
Posted on Tuesday, March 12, 2013 - 8:24 pm:   Edit Post

So sorry for your loss, my wife and I send our love and condolences... ;.~(
Senior Member
Username: georgie_boy

Post Number: 1054
Registered: 8-2005
Posted on Wednesday, March 13, 2013 - 4:52 am:   Edit Post

My thoughts are with you Graeme.
Username: davehouck

Post Number: 11030
Registered: 5-2002
Posted on Wednesday, March 13, 2013 - 6:43 am:   Edit Post

Graeme; you've written a beautiful remembrance of Chris, the influence he had on you musically. Thank you for sharing that with us. Holding you in my heart.
Senior Member
Username: rustyg61

Post Number: 803
Registered: 2-2011
Posted on Wednesday, March 13, 2013 - 10:43 am:   Edit Post

I'm so sorry for your loss Graeme. I lost my brother in 2002, so I know what you are feeling. You & your family are in my prayers.
Senior Member
Username: jacko

Post Number: 3335
Registered: 10-2002
Posted on Wednesday, March 13, 2013 - 2:31 pm:   Edit Post

I just want to thank everyone for your kind thoughts. This truly is the perfect family.


(Message edited by jacko on March 13, 2013)
Senior Member
Username: terryc

Post Number: 2068
Registered: 11-2004
Posted on Thursday, March 14, 2013 - 1:49 am:   Edit Post

Deepest sympathies to you and your family.
Senior Member
Username: mario_farufyno

Post Number: 890
Registered: 9-2008
Posted on Thursday, March 14, 2013 - 5:23 pm:   Edit Post

Jacko I lost my older brother when we were teens, that marked me deep and I'm really sorry to hear that you're having to face that loss. My thoughts go with you and your family, know you all will overcome such grief in time
Senior Member
Username: fc_spoiler

Post Number: 1436
Registered: 5-2006
Posted on Thursday, March 14, 2013 - 6:34 pm:   Edit Post

Sorry to hear about your loss.... :-(
I lost my "little brother" when he was 18, still lost for words...

Love to you and your family, take care!
Senior Member
Username: edwin

Post Number: 1466
Registered: 5-2002
Posted on Friday, March 15, 2013 - 12:24 am:   Edit Post

Graeme, I'm so sorry to hear of this. Thanks for sharing a brief history of his life, I'm sure that beneath each sentence are amazing adventures and wonderful times. While you are going through this time of loss, you have brought me a moment of inspiration. I've tried to share what I can with as many as I can, but it shows me that there's always more to do. You know we're here for you.

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